Boys Love recommendations

*Updated May 11, 2019. I’ll keep this as a sticky post on me.shirasade.net.

As you might have noticed, I’ve been on a kick for Asian gay-themed movies and tv shows (aka Boys Love) recently and figured some of you might appreciate a recs list. Here are some of my requirements:

  • happy ending
  • good chemistry between the leads
  • no rape-y vibes

The latter is unfortunately incredibly wide-spread, making many of the most popular shows unwatchable for me (looking at you, Addicted…). Even in some of the shows I mention below there are side-pairings that squick me out, but that’s what the fast-forward button is for.

With all shows, the subtitles often leave a lot to be desired, but I’m just grateful people go to the trouble to translate. Also, don’t watch especially Thai BL shows if you want high quality filming and acting – very often the actors are inexperienced and the sound quality is horrible. For me, a show lives and dies with its main couple – I usually go back and only rewatch their storyline, ignoring everything else.

If you have any recommendations for similar movies/shows, please don’t hesitate to share, as my obsession doesn’t seem to want to end any time soon… 🙂

Warning: There will be mild spoilers below.

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TV show rant

Rewatching He’s Coming to Me and reveling in the wonderfulness of episodes 4 and 5 (fan dee nah!, cheating the test *g*, figuring out Met’s name, the birthday date!, Thun’s struggle with his sexuality, Met’s heartbreak, the entire fucking rooftop scene, and of course the KISS!) as I try to mentally steel myself for the Shadowhunters series finale. I refuse to watch it by myself, so I’m waiting for @rebelqueenss​ so we can suffer together.

Because I’m sure we will suffer – and let’s be real, probably not in the “I can’t believe it’s ending!” way, because unfortunately I haven’t been very happy with 3b in too many ways to count. Often, when I really love a show, I never actually finish watching it, so it won’t ever be completely over – it’s why I still haven’t seen the end of season 2 of Agent Carter.

While with Shadowhunters, my love is for the potential it had (and sadly squandered way too often), for the characters I’ve come to love and of course most of all for the beauty of the parabatai relationship and my beloved OTP. So in a way I’m actually glad it’ll be over, because then we can go ahead and fix canon in whatever way we want – that’s what fanfic is for, after all.

(I’m very much hoping my inspiration will return to me, because I’ve been so disillusioned, I haven’t even wanted to write my missing parabatai scenes drabbles… Ironic, considering that the sidelining of their relationship is one of my biggest pet peeves – just like all relationships that aren’t romantic have been sidelined.

Pride jewelry

A couple of weeks ago my employer announced our annual bonus – so to celebrate I decided to go on Etsy for some shopping! 🙂

I ended up ordering two customised pieces of jewelry in the aro-ace flag colours. (They were originally just ace colours – black/grey/white/purple – and I asked for aro colours to be added – green/light-green/white/grey/black.) Both arrived in the meantime, and I really like them a lot:

close-up of my ear, with the new mobius earrings in the aro-ace pride colours
Mobius earrings by GoldenLionCustom
close-up of my right pinky with a silver ring with hearts in aro-ace pride colours
Pride ring by CurlyFryStudios

They’re so pretty, and I can easily wear them every day. (And the ring is slightly adjustable, which I prefer because my fingers seem to change in size depending on the weather. *g*)

Meta: I Would Have Followed You: Masculine Love and Devotion in Jackson’s Lord of the Rings – VRV Blog

Tolkien largely excluded women from his stories—I don’t think there’s a single one in The Hobbit—but he had genuine insight into not just the male society he belonged to, but its differing permutations passed down out of classical and Anglo-Saxon legend and historical record.

Source: I Would Have Followed You: Masculine Love and Devotion in Jackson’s Lord of the Rings – VRV Blog

Great meta on LotR and how its men are allowed to have and show emotions. Unsurprising that in our post-homosocial society we often read these deep relationships as gay, resulting in some of the most iconic slash ships (looking at you, Holmes & Watson!)…

Multifandom drabble exchange reveal

So I wrote three little drabbles for the Multifandom Drabble Exchange:

I also received FIVE drabbles of my own, in four different fandoms, which just made my day – fandom is so great!!

Lazy weekend

I, umm, didn’t leave my house this weekend. Oops? 🙂 I did, however, do lots of inside stuff:

  • set up my “new” phone (my Sony’s been crapping out on me, although it’s barely 2 years old, so I bought a refurbished Samsung). They always say how easy it’s supposed to be, but in the end I updated stuff for most of the day.
  • signed up for the Guardian Reverse Exchange.
  • did some exercises the trainer at my gym showed me on Friday. After such a long break I’m seriously out of shape, it’s very frustrating, so I’ll try to do them at home, too.
  • edited and posted the next Shipping (Pod)Cast episode to Patreon: Connor Murphy x Evan Hansen (Dear Evan Hansen) with Nich (public release April 5).
  • recorded the episode after that, giving me a well-appreciated buffer before the next deadline.

I also watched the next episode of my current Boys Love addiction – He’s Coming to Me is cute, warm-hearted, and hitting ALL the emotional beats. Although we’re only 4 subbed episodes in, I’ve already added it to my recs list (which I’ve been updating, btw). Met and Thun are totally adorable and have such sweet chemistry, plus I’m actually invested in the plot: Met is a ghost, and Thun is the only person who can see him. So they a) can’t touch, for extra feels, and b) have to figure out how Met died. And above all of this reincarnation looms… Usually I’d worry about a tragic ending, but the whole show has such a positive spirit overall, I think it’ll be hopeful in some way, even if I can’t see how. Well, only four more episodes, apparently…

Oh, and I finally watched episode 30 of Guardian – things are definitely coming to a head!

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A little bit of light afternoon stalking – aka Zhu Yilong is in my town!!!

For the record: I’m writing this down in detail because asya and fangirlishness are complete enablers. 😉

So, last night, just as I was about to head to bed, I saw something on Tumblr about Shen Wei himself, Zhu Yilong, attending the watch & jewelry fair Baselworld. In case you don’t know – I live in Basel, and I might have lost it a little bit when I realized that at this very moment I was only a couple of kilometres away from this gorgeous creature… (That’s the suit he’s wearing today.)

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The three most beautiful days

That’s what we call Fasnacht, our carnival in Basel, which is happening right now – actually it’s ending tomorrow morning at 6am, having started Monday 4am. (Yes, we’re a week later than most, already officially in Lent – my theory is that they chose the date to thumb their noses at their Catholic neighbours, post-Reformation. Basel is special like that. *g*)

I missed most of it this year, only going to the children’s parade on Tuesday with my brother and his family (omg, my nephews were so fricking adorable!) and having a wander through town today, taking a look at some of the lanterns and floats. I did, however, have the mandatory foods: onion quiche and flour soup, yum!

I also booked the trains for the Shadowhunters con in Brussels in June. As an extra awesome perk, because traveling via Paris is fastest, I’ll leave a day early and spend the night with one of my Jalec gals. We’ll then travel to Brussels together. Yay for time in beautiful Paris!

In other news, I watched two more episodes of Guardian (eps 28/29), which means more liveblogs! 🙂

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